A few weeks ago a friend posted on facebook about feeling unloved. She has experienced much in her life and at that particular time felt that those around her, which included family and even her own therapist, had let her down. Many comments were posted to her page reassuring her that she is loved. I do not doubt she didn’t know she was loved. In fact I am sure she rarely forgets, but isn’t it interesting how even when one is surrounded by family and friends he or she can feel unloved?
I can very much relate to feeling unloved. It unfortunately a very familiar feeling that I have experience for much of my life that seems to go hand and hand with loneliness. We all experience rejection in our lives, but most importantly, we also experience disappointment from those who supposedly love us. We put our faith in another person and down the road they disappoint us and we are deeply hurt. Because of our disappointments, we all yearn to feel loved.
I have learned that nothing in this world can being a person true and everlasting happiness. This also means that we as human beings can never experience what it means to be a true giver and receiver of love. Because we are imperfect, our love is imperfect and since we give imperfect love, we in turn receive imperfect love. We try to seek perfection in people which is impossible. No matter how hard we try, we will at some point be disappointed by others and we will also disappoint others as well.
If we ourselves are imperfect, how can we expect to find perfect and everlasting love in another imperfect human being? The simple answer is that we can’t. To experience true love, we must realize Who the real giver of true love is.
I wrote this following comment beneath my friend’s facebook status.
You feel unloved because no one in this world can love you perfectly. We are all finite creatures seeking the infinite, the divine, the eternal. We are all imperfect creatures and therefore not capable of loving perfectly. This is why we can never find happiness through another person. Only God is perfect and thus capable of perfect love. Therefore keep your eyes on God always for He is the true giver of perfect love and our only True Love.
And therefore I end by saying this: if perfect and eternal love is what you seek, you will never find it in this world for the world cannot offer such a thing. Nothing in this world lasts forever. You can only find true love in God, for He is the reason that we love and seek love in the first place.